Every church pastor rubbing elbows with an attractive secretary, ministry leader, or vivacious volunteer needs to know they’re bouncing on a high diving board over a pool with no water in it.
If a pastor has begun delicate counseling sessions with the opposite sex that delve into intimate marital issues, it may be time for a referral.
Innocent feelings of fondness or affection for the opposite sex can turn into a torrent of desire with shocking speed – all fueled by an unseen enemy who wants to devour you and your ministry.
I caught a posting by Ed Stetzer, with LifeWay Christian Resources, where he mentions some commonsense boundaries established by Saddleback Church for their staff. Here are Saddleback’s “Ten Commandments”:
1. “Thou shalt not go to lunch alone with the opposite sex.
2. “Thou shalt not have the opposite sex pick you up or drive you places when it is just the two of you.
3. “Thou shalt not kiss any attender of the opposite sex or show affection that could be questioned.
4. “Thou shalt not visit the opposite sex alone at home.
5. “Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex alone at the office, and thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex more than once without that person’s mate. Refer them.
6. “Thou shalt not discuss detailed sexual problems with the opposite sex in counseling. Refer them.
7. “Thou shalt not discuss your marriage problems with an attender of the opposite sex.
8. “Thou shalt be careful in answering emails, instant messages, chatrooms, cards or letters from the opposite sex.
9. “Thou shalt make your co-worker your protective ally.
10. “Thou shalt pray for the integrity of other staff members.”
(The first three do not apply to unmarried staff.)
Continue reading at: http://blog.godreports.com/2011/04/avoiding-sexual-temptations-in-the-church-office/